5 Ways Not to Lose Yourself to a Bridgerton Relationship
Another confession time: Like my advice about The Rookie’s Chenford relationship, I was again a complete novice about Bridgerton until it became a topic of conversation during Season Three.
Once again, I binge-watched all three seasons and understand why the premise is interesting.
Unlike the advice I gave for The Rookie’s Chenford relationship, this one has spoilers. Read no further if you haven’t watched all of three seasons of Bridgerton.
While I’m not going to call out the Season One rape of Simon Basset by Daphne (Bridgerton) Basset because it’s so blatant that anyone can determine the issue, I do find the Season Three relationship between Colin Bridgerton and Penelope Featherington to be disturbing.
Life Goals
Penelope Featherington is the infamous writer Lady Whistledown; writing is an avocation that she not only enjoys for the sake of enjoyment but also does very well financially, which gives her a rare advantage during the time represented by Bridgerton: freedom in the form of not having to marry to have an equitable life.
That was a very refreshing plotline throughout the three seasons, and I looked forward to how it would play out as her relationship with Colin grew. I give the actress, writers, and director credit for demonstrating that she had to reassert herself to others and herself on many occasions to retain her freedom.
With Colin returning from a mission to find himself as a man, I was very interested to see how two people who had come a long way to learning who they were as individuals would play out as a married couple.
Then, it all collapsed when Colin agreed to give up the essence of who he was to support Penelope’s life goals.
In doing so, Colin became a pet. And men, that’s one of the fastest ways to change yourself from a man into a boy.
In any relationship, both people need to be able to act on what makes them unique with the full support of each other, and Bridgerton Season Three failed because Colin was essentially written out of the relationship.
I admit that my support of the actors, writers, and director diminished because they had switched the male and female roles to make a heavy-handed commentary about the state of equality during that period.
Men: don’t make Colin’s mistake in real life.
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5 Ways Not to Lose Yourself to a Bridgerton Relationship
- Communicate Openly and Honestly: Regularly discuss your goals, aspirations, and plans with your partner. This transparency helps you understand each other’s priorities and supports mutual growth.
- Set Boundaries and Personal Time: Allocate specific personal development and professional work times. Ensure you have dedicated time for your goals, and communicate these boundaries respectfully to your partner.
- Support Each Other’s Aspirations: Encourage and support your partner’s goals as much as your own. A balanced relationship where both parties uplift each other fosters mutual respect and understanding.
- Plan and Prioritize Together: Create a shared calendar that includes personal and professional goals. Prioritize tasks and make adjustments as needed, ensuring both partners have the space to pursue their ambitions.
- Seek Balance and Compromise: Understand that compromise is essential in any relationship. Sometimes, you may need to adjust your plans to support your partner and vice versa. Striving for balance ensures that both partners’ goals are valued and pursued.
Start today if you need to do some of these things in your relationship.
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